ABY BUT IN ALLCAPS<p>I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.</p><p>I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".</p><p>Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"</p><p>Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc.. </p><p>But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?</p><p>Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.</p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/fetlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>fetlife</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/bdsm" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bdsm</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Ds" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Ds</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Dominant" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Dominant</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/submissive" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>submissive</span></a></p>