kata 🎁 :green: <p>learning a lot about the aplatonic spectrum today and decided to share since there’s not much discussion about it on fedi. this is intended not only as an educational post but also one of compassion and understanding for others in the world, so it contains aspects of both throughout it</p><p>aplatonic is an aspec (anattractional spectrum) identity based around <strong>not experiencing platonic (friendship) attraction or squishes</strong>, the platonic equivalent of crushes</p><p>ever had a squish? defining this will make explaining these concepts easier. whether by that term or not, <strong>a squish is a strong desire to be close to someone in a friendly way</strong>. it might be wanting to hang out with them, desiring them as a friend, wanting to make friendly gestures to them, or things like that. that could also be a desire to have a queerplatonic relationship with them. but, and this is important, <strong>a squish doesn’t include desiring to be with someone being in a romantic way</strong>. that’s why it’s more common for aromantic folks to experience and talk about this. it’s strictly platonic in that case.</p><p><strong>fun fact: we call aplatonic folks “apl” for short, pronounced like “apple”</strong></p><p>similar to how other aspec folks can still be in relationships, <strong>apls can absolutely be in friendships. others are repulsed and not interested at all.</strong> some are fine saying they love their friends, while others couldn’t do that if they tried. someone can be allosexual and alloromantic while experiencing no platonic attraction, which could be described as alloapl in short</p><p>sometimes that feeling fluctuates or shows up in different ways. in one post there was this user who explained how they get squishes and want to be someone’s friend, but as they get closer and closer that feeling starts to die away. they used the term frayplatonic to explain this, the fray- prefix referring to that gradual decline in it based on closeness. guess it’s kind of like the inverse form of the demi- prefix</p><p>sometimes it’s like, “not sure if alloplatonic or just wanting some form of attention” (either one is valid)</p><p>other times it’s like, “not sure what friendship is supposed to look like, let alone if that sounds good”</p><p>sometimes it’s like, “yeah, let’s just vibe in the community. it’s nice at a respectable distance”</p><p>then sometimes it’s like, “hmm, everything out there says being friends is the best thing ever, so why does it feel so strange to call someone this? we haven’t even talked about going steady like that, isn’t that a big commitment?”</p><p>then other times still it might be like, “i don’t know what being a friend means, but if they say that i am one then i will defend them until my dying breath”</p><p>but even then it could be like, “hmm. nah, not interested at all. no need for love in my life, including platonic,” which is awesome in its own respect, because society says friendship is so important and someone says no it ain’t and just doesn’t do that? it takes a lot of guts to stick to one’s truth like that</p><p>it’s so cool and shows that <strong>no one should feel pressured into relationships they aren’t interested in</strong>, friend relationships included. even someone who doesn’t really relate to showing love for others can still be a valued member of so many communities just by existing and uplifting those around them. or if they don’t, that’s fine too. lone wolves are great</p><p>also here is what the most common aplatonic flag to come across looks like. also the first one. it’s a classic mid-2010s era symbolic color stripecore piece that’s going for a nice to look at selection of colors, gotta love it</p><p>whether someone identifies with this term or not, conceptually it exists and there are a lot of ways to have a relationship with that. it’s not possible to tell if someone is aplatonic just by looking at them, or even observing them sometimes, because after all, <strong>at the end of the day, even the most rizzful can be apl.</strong> thanks for reading :akko_grin:</p><p><a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/aplatonic" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#aplatonic</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/aromantic" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#aromantic</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/asexual" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#asexual</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/aspec" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#aspec</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/loveless" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#loveless</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/lgbt" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#lgbt</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/queer" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#queer</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://void.lgbt/tag/pride" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#pride</a></p>
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Endlich ist es so weit! Die #aroweek2025 ist gestartet und wir freuen uns sehr darauf, mit euch allen zu feiern, aktivistisch zu werden und für Sichtbarkeit zu stehen. Ab 16 Uhr geht es heute bei uns los mit dem Programm.
Wir freuen uns tolle Gäst*innen zu haben, die diese Aro Week unvergesslich machen werden. Schaut gern vorbei bei @ace_arovolution und lest ihre starken Forderungen für diese Aktionswoche, oder lauscht bei @inspektren_podcast und @aspecs_goettingen mal in die Podcast Folgen um mehr über Aromantik zu lernen. Ihr könnt auch den Blog von @aktiv_aro durchlesen oder so viel mehr!
Habt viel Spaß in dieser Woche 
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#queer #aktivismus #activism #lgbtpride #lgbtqcommunity #germany #aspecgerman #aspec #ace #aro #aplatonic #aroweek #aroweek2025 #aasw2025 #PostcardsAROundTheWorld
Die Aro Week steht vor der Tür und am Sonntag geht es endlich los!
Hier folgt das Programm, damit ihr planen könnt welche Termine ihr verschieben müsst um diese fantastische Aro Week zu besuchen! Kommt vorbei, wir freuen uns sehr auf euch.
Shoutout an unsere Gäst*innen: @inspektren @lsvd
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#aplatonicspectrum #queer #aktivismus #activism #aktivismus #lgbtpride #lgbtqcommunity #germany #aspecgerman #aspec #ace #aro #aplatonic #aroweek #aroweek2025
*german version below* For the Upcoming Aro Week 2025 we planned a creative collaboration for the whole aro & a*spec community! We invite everyone to participate, to create something for the hashtag #PostcardsAROundTheWolrd ! Tag us in your creation and we will repost it! Let the World know, that Aro folks exist!
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Für die kommende Aro Week 2025 haben wir eine kreative Zusammenarbeit für die gesamte aro- und a*spec-Community geplant! Wir laden alle ein, mitzumachen und etwas für den Hashtag #PostcardsAROundTheWorld zu erstellen! Markiert uns in eurer Kreation, und wir werden sie teilen! Lasst die Welt wissen, dass es Aro-Menschen gibt!
Auf Slide Nummer 3 findet ihr alle anderen Prompts der kommenden Aro Week 2025!
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#aplatonicspectrum #queer #aktivismus #activism #aktivismus #lgbtpride #lgbtqcommunity #germany #aspecgerman #aspec #ace #aro #agender #aplatonic #comingot #podium #queer #aroweek #aroweek2025
Heute ist der Coming-out Day!
Wir zelebrieren einen Tag, der die queere Community feiert und Menschen ermutigen soll, ihre eigene Identität offen zu leben.
Wir freuen uns unfassbar darauf, heute Abend, ab 19 Uhr, ein Panel auf unserem Discord Server zu halten, wo wir darüber diskutieren werden, ob ein Coming-out heute denn noch notwendig ist, und wie vor allem andere queere Identitäten damit umgehen.
Dafür haben wir uns Stargäste eingeladen wie @jonaslisting und @daria_kinga_majewski die uns helfen, den Blick aus dem Aspec* in die gesamte Community zu richten. Seid dabei!
Some hashtags I like:
#art #Rembrandt #Escher #digitalart
#music #jazz #classical #powermetal #musictheory #WorldMusic
#science #JWST #space #relativity #blackholes
#Judaism (disclaimer: I am NOT Jewish) #Torah #Kabbalah
#politics #DemocraticSocialist #TrumpSucks #ElectDemocrats #RacialJustice
#LGBTQIA #aromantic #asexual #aplatonic #transrights
Will add more as I remember them!!!
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#Cats
#CatsofMastodon
#OneSinglePet <---my running record of my cat that hates me permitting me to pet her lol
#nature
#LGBT
#aromantic
#Asexual
#aroace
#aplatonic
#cooking
#Baking
#castiron
#foodie
Phew. Might add more as I think of it all. Nice to be here!
Here's a list of things I'm interested in, and Imma pin it to my profile:
(after writing some of this...that's quite a lot o_o...i wish I did only a few things extraordinarily well, maybe somone'd pay me for it 
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#art #Politics
#DigitalArt #Democrats
#Wacom #Climate
#music #LGBTQ
#Jazz #Aromantic
#Classical #Asexual
#Powermetal #Aplatonic
It's time to make my #introduction
I'm Pallas. I'm #Aplatonic #aromantic (#demiromantic) and #genderqueer. I consider myself #Omnigender, because I have at least one gender of any quality, but I don't necessarily experience every gender.
I'm technically #asexual and #asensual, but as I experience other types of #PhysicalAttraction strongly, I just say I'm a #grayce #MspecGay
I love retro/vintage things, including but not limited to:#CLassicTV, #OldHollywood #OldSchoolVisualKei, #ClassicalMusic (Mostly from the Galant/classical and romantic periods), #ClassicLiterature, #VintageFashion and more; and I'm particularly interested in the intersection between queerness and those things, like queer artists of the pass and queer rep on old media.
As you can see for my profile picture, my favourite composer is Beethoven
I'm #neurodivergent (#Autistic and #epileptic) and, beside vintage/retro stuff, my special Interest are #Space related things and #linguistics.
I'm #disabled and require the use of #AltText as my vision often doesn't work properly due to nerve-related issues.
I'm not new to either the #fediverse, I've been in and out of it since 2018 (Not because I didn't like it, I just pass from times where I don't use #SocialMedia), nor fully to #Calckey or #Misskey, I've tried them in the past without good results; the places I was in either died or I didn't felt at home in. So here I'm trying to give this side of the fediverse another try!
Happy #aplatonic visibility day from your local aroaplflux! 
He/him #nonbinary #demiboy
Profile icon is a painting I made. It is based on the character Ace from #20xx but recolor to fit the #asexual flag.
Otherwise, I post rarely, probably responding to someone. Or on a topic like #programming #python #parent #ADHD #queer #asexual #aromantic #aplatonic. Or more likely, just random posting.