@RickiTarr Glad to hear that they are no longer together. From what you wrote he was not just a narcissist but an abuser. Abusive partners break down their partners emotionally and mentally in order to control them. Sometimes it can end in rape or even murder.
If you want to depress yourself look for youtube videos by Lundy Bancroft a psychiatrist who works with abusive men trying to understand and help them.
#DomesticAbuse #MentalAbuse
The house the Independent built: First safe haven for women fleeing domestic abuse is finished | The Independent
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/brick-by-brick-refuge-house-completed-domestic-abuse-b2730753.html
I've just had a work meeting where I chose to have one of the hardest conversations of my life. I disclosed being a #DomesticAbuse survivor. Survivor's guilt. The impossible-to-displace belief that it was my fault, that I enabled it. Irrational, illogical, clearly untrue, but this is what a controlling & coercive abuser does. They gaslight and erode you until they've destroyed you. He's long dead but is still controlling me now. I'll never heal from this. I'm mentally damaged for life.
I just rediscovered two old posts/threads of mine, that explain pretty well, why I want to go into pedagogy now (I didn't know it back then - too busy working on my depression and hating school):
Content warning: Childhood trauma
https://climatejustice.social/@PaulaToThePeople/111490472007434009
https://climatejustice.social/@PaulaToThePeople/111187258270534141
I want to protect children.
I want to provide them a save environment to thrive and talk about their troubles.
In a perfect school system kids would learn mental hygiene and get therapy before they learn integrals and the uncritical history of wars and power abuse. That would prevent so much domestic abuse, because it would be caught early.
And teaching kids emotional and social competence before teaching them applied capitalism will prevent abuse, division, exploitation and hate in the future.
I want to teach children to be happier than me, less abusive than my stepdad, more empathetic than my mom and more protective of future generations than my teachers were.
That's why I'm studying animal assisted pedagogy and will start studying social pedagogy, trauma pedagogy and environmental pedagogy this fall.
Also, while the Court is typically conservative, its decisions on firearms have shown complexity.
For instance, it recently allowed police to take guns from abusers, showing a nuanced approach.
In case it was missed in the post above, this is my updated article:
https://www.thecanary.co/global/world-analysis/2025/04/01/anna-severe-me-cfs/
My doctor predicts I will die if I don’t leave soon.
I need a solid, safe, home I can go to and recover to at least a stable baseline. It’s not full recovery, but it’s better than a slow death.
Help please 
#PwME #LongCovid #MECFS #Hypothyroidism #ChronicIllness #Neisvoid #Abuse #Housing #Dysautonomia #SocialWork #MedMastodon #PWLC #MutualAid
#HumanRights #Press #Housing #Journalism #MECFS #SevereME #Abuse #Neglect #MutualAid #Narcissist #Psychopath #MCAS #MCAD #Endometriosis #ChronicPain #CostOfLivingCrisis #Melbourne #Australia #DomesticAbuse #DV
@chronicillness @longcovid @neisvoid
@disabilityjustice
@disability @socialwork
@dysautonomia @mutualaid
@mecfs
@chronicpain
@mcas
@australia
@melbourne
On the day Noella took action against her abusive partner, she knew where to go: the bank.
She walked into an HSBC U.K.
branch, asked for a Safe Space, and found support there while making plans for her and her children’s safety.
#DomesticAbuse traps victims in cycles of fear—often because leaving means financial ruin.
#UniversalBasicIncome (#UBI) changes that, giving victims agency without bureaucratic hurdles.
No approvals, no means-testing—just freedom to leave NOW.
No more choosing between abuse and homelessness. UBI covers a bus ticket, a security deposit, food while rebuilding.
It won’t solve everything, but it’s a lifeline when every second counts. 
More claims against the coward #AndrewTate. This abuser should be behind bars for life.
"If you ever betray me you will regret it."
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c62z2e5166eo
#domesticabuse #consent #publichealth @publichealth #misogyny
5 - Police Interceptors - Season 3 - Episode 5 / Episode 5
The Police in this episode say Domestic Violence by a woman on her husband/male partner is an increasing trend .
https://www.channel5.com/show/police-interceptors/season-3/episode-5
Japan’s embassy, Hungary’s police slammed for not protecting murdered Japanese woman https://www.byteseu.com/753507/ #Abuse #budapest #Children #DomesticAbuse #Embassy #Gal #Hungary #investigation #JapaneseDiplomats #JapaneseEmbassy #Megumi #Murder #police #Suspect #Tokyo #violence
"In 2019, Refuge reported that 72% of women accessing its services said they had been subjected to “technology-facilitated abuse”, and warned that the growing use of camera doorbells and smart speakers can provide perpetrators with more tools to harm victims. They’re an effective method of coercive control, for monitoring, spying and withholding power."
#EvaWiseman, 2025
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/feb/09/is-it-time-to-ring-the-alarm-on-internet-door-cameras
Whilst I'm glad #coercivecontrol is being recognised for the #seriousharm it causes, this article is somewhat misleading (or the media have been briefed incorrectly). Any serious harm risks (including coercive control) are already shared with other agencies by the #Probationservice, this is not something new. It is disingenuous to infer otherwise.
Coercive control to be put on par with other types of #domesticabuse in England and Wales | Domestic violence | The Guardian
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/feb/03/coercive-control-domestic-abuse-england-wales
Back in #familycourt again tomorrow fighting for more time with my #kids
#Eldest #Children Suffer Under #CoerciveControl #DomesticViolence
#Domesticabuse harms the #eldestchild the most. Here's how to help.
Cops: "Well, you know how women can be."
#DomesticAbuse
#DomesticTerrorists
Revise Legal Frameworks to Address Tech-Abuse and Stalking in Domestic Violence Cases
"As victim of tech-abuse and post-separation stalking, I have lived the reality of our legislatively flawed legal system firsthand. Despite thorough reporting to the police, my perpetrator remains at large due to current legislation: a three-month repetition clause within reporting limitations."
I’m a survivor of torture in the UK. Writing is helping me heal https://www.byteseu.com/599930/ #AsylumSeekers #DomesticAbuse #GreatBritain #HealthAndWellbeing #HumanRights #MentalHealth #UnitedKingdom
'There’s no support': Domestic abuse survivor shares difficulties leaving her relationship
An Edmonton woman who tried to flee an abusive relationship ended up back where she started in part due to a lack of shelter space.
#domesticabuse #support #relationship #Edmonton
https://edmonton.ctvnews.ca/there-s-no-support-domestic-abuse-survivor-shares-difficulties-leaving-her-relationship-1.7154869
